I am een-Vinc-ible!

[eurydicebound]

Thing 1: We got back our group papers today in English class. Our paper got used as an example to the class for the next project (without identifying who wrote it) and our group got a perfect score. It is not too much credit to myself to say that I walked people through finding a good idea and then was assigned to write the first draft (which had only cosmetic changes made to it by others in the group). 200 pts out of 200, baby. Oh yeah.

Thing 2: After being out for a week, I went back to the gym and did cardio while I watched the Dancing with the Stars finale. Though Laila is my girl, Joey totally owned the freestyle. 30 minutes on the elliptical, effectively 2 miles, with a top heart rate of 164. This after not going since I came down with bronchitis (which is totally gone now, God bless Zithromax). I rock.

Thing 3: Guy who stood me up apparently realized today that I had blocked him, and thus sent me an email after all. He says: "I'm so, so sorry about Friday and my silence over the weekend. It's been crazy and hectic... work related, basically. I am truly sorry for not letting you know. Can we try this once more -- any day, even tomorrow.. please?"

What do you think, Gentle Reader? Should I let him buy me dinner and try to apologize, or throw the baggage out! Your votes will decide! *grin*

Comments

[amanofhats.livejournal.com]

Yes...but somewhere expensive.

Do you like sushi? ;)

[anaka.livejournal.com]

I do, but only wimpy white-girl sushi, like rolls. Anything that actually has large pieces of raw fish gets to me. It's a texture thing.

Your vote has been recorded and will be tallied at the end of our broadcast. Thanks! :)

[mysticalforest.livejournal.com]

Throw the baggage out. No work is so hectic that you can't reply to someone's IM--when you're already on IM. Or respond to their emails. Or, waitaminute--tell them before you stand them up!

For F's sake. There's no excuse.

Maybe the curr will learn a lesson when you say no, maybe not, but there's one thing you've learned: He can't be relied upon.

[anaka.livejournal.com]

Oh, I agree. The issue here is not so much whether or not one should rely upon him, because... well, no, but rather whether or not one should accept the nice guilt-induced dinner and let him meet me in the process. I suspect that if I had continued to be nice and let it go, I'd never have heard from him again... or only on his terms. This does not bode well for a long-term relationship, obviously, but really that's not even on the table. I'd be happy with spending a Friday out of the house, frankly. :) Still, presumably I could do better and/or pay for my own damn dinner. Stranger things have happened.

[eynowd.livejournal.com]

1) Awesome work! Congrats! :D
3) I'd probably say let him go.

[anaka.livejournal.com]

Probably say? Come on, man, take a stand! Black or white, sink or swim, cake or death! What else is LJ for than to choose a pointless position and defend it against all comers, preferably in someone else's journal! :)

[eynowd.livejournal.com]

Right then :)

Kick him to the curb with extreme prejudice! If he had enough time to contact you via email, but then disappear as soon as you asked what happened, then he's likely to do it again. Cut your losses and walk.

(I was hedging my bets a little because there's always your own feelings to take into consideration. He might have had some redeeming qualities. Sometimes I do suffer from trying to look at a problem from all sides :)

[shellyinseattle.livejournal.com]

Don't even bother to reply to the jerk. He's already behaved badly; no one needs to be with someone like that.

[anaka.livejournal.com]

Advice duly noted. Your vote has been tallied too! :)

[adamjury.livejournal.com]

Pft. Second chance? No way. Dude couldn't take 60 seconds to IM, mail, or phone you to say "Hey look, some work stuff came up and I'm way too busy to go out tonight, I'm sorry. Can we please reschedule?" AND he didn't dare talk to you until today, after you asked him what happened over the weekend?

Next he'll be telling you that he's a "nice guy." Screw that -- no wait, don't screw that.

[anaka.livejournal.com]

Erm... yeah. No screwing that. :)

[polyhex.livejournal.com]

Congrats!

I am being very shallow but I would probably take the free dinner.

[anaka.livejournal.com]

Sometimes still waters run deep, and sometimes you just neglect to fill the reflecting pool. :) I do understand. The concept of grovelling and free nice dinner is quite tempting.

[trollbabe.livejournal.com]

Is it completely dreadful that I want to say, "Say yes, but then stand /him/ up!"

Okay. Dreadful? Probably not. Juvenile as hell? Yes.

Anyway - "work" and "crazy and hectic" are not reasons for one to completely forget basic fucking courtesy.

The only way I'll say "Sure, go out with him again" is if a) the attraction you'd felt before was /way/ strong and b) you go in SUPER ULTRA BITCH MODE*, making it super-clear that you are NOT going to take shit off the likes of him. So if he wants your time, your attention, you're goddamn fingernail clippings, he's gonna have to work for it.

* Okay, what I really mean by this is that, if in conversation you find yourself about to "let something go" because it only bothered you a little bit and gosh, this is a first date, why make waves? Don't let it go. Come down on it hard and fast and strong, and don't back down on it. Do not. Hell, that's advice for any first dates you go on, really. Make the rules clear and plainly visible from the outset, and if it goes beyond that first date, then you've spared yourself future arguments down the road.

[anaka.livejournal.com]

Dreadful? No no, dear heart. It had frankly already occurred to me as well, but mostly just as a passing amusement. :)

a) Not way strong attraction. He's cute in a "resembles vaguely a movie star in a movie I liked" sort of way, but not anything to seriously squee over. And yes, the bitch mode would be a requirement. *grin* And your vote has been tallied too!

[daydreamweaver.livejournal.com]

Oooh, I LIKE this one. Can I vote for it? *evilgrins*

More seriously, dude isn't worth your time. If you think it'll be entertaining to screw with him by going out in bitchmode, then do it, but personally I'd rather go out solo than with someone who has such high potential for being a complete idiot.

[wilthoughts.livejournal.com]

I think bitch mode sounds like a bad plan, I suggest just letting him go, in the end it won't be worth the free dinner when you're sitting there stewing and wondering why you're there in the first place. It will be hard to have a good time, and it sounds to me like he's just trying to save face for himself, not for you.

[bodybag-pilgrim.livejournal.com]

I am a shallow person, and have also been watching a lot of pro wrestling lately.

Therefore, I prescribe a running dropkick to the face for this rapscallion, or a chokeslam if you're feeling less high-flier.

(Life would be much simpler by pro wrestling rules...)

[adamjury.livejournal.com]

Given how malleable they are, that's a sure thing -- they can be adapted for any situation.

[exilesletter.livejournal.com]

I get the very bad feeling he is a) messing with you and b) would stand you up again.

Please do not give him this chance. There are far better ways to get out of the house and enjoy a nice dinner (on your own dime, as you suggested, or by calling up a friend).

My vote, in case it is unclear, is FUCK NO.

[themoocow.livejournal.com]

Let him buy you dinner, then throw the baggage out. ;)

Seriously, he's scum, but free food is free food.

[herrw.livejournal.com]

I reread the post I left earlier, and it was so illiterate, awkward and self-serving that I had to delete it. My appologies that it sat here for a day.

My vote is still 'kick him to the curb.'

If you go out with him, and are nice, then it will be a Jerk and a nice person having dinner, with one of them developing indigestion.

If you go out with him and are a bitch, then its a bitch and a jerk sharing dinner, and both get indigestion. Either way its a no win scenareo.

So that's my two cents on the matter. Find someone else or let my wife fix you up with one of our single friends ;p

[anaka.livejournal.com]

Well, while I appreciate the matchmaking offer, the continent between your location and mine could make potential blind dates awkward. :)

Also, it should be noted that my definition of bitch is someone who is straightforward and doesn't allow herself to be run over, not someone who is mean for no reason. If I were to show up to dinner in "bitch" mode, it means that I'm nice enough, but I'm not going to let him charm his way out of it or convince me that I don't have a reason to be angry, or to otherwise act against my own interests in favor of his. It doesn't mean that I'll belittle him or be a tease and drop him, etc. Frankly, that'd be too much work even if I were so inclined. :)