Personal Update -- Full Speed Ahead

[eurydicebound]

The current deadline is August, ladies and gents: That's the month by which David should be moved out and in his own place, and paperwork should be proceeding on the divorce (not going to count on it being complete by that date, given Washington's 90-day waiting period). David's begun the process of researching money and places and whatnot, and the entire picture looks far rosier than he'd originally thought. We're figuring out how much money we'd need to save up for him to get a place with furniture for him and kiddos, and will begin putting it aside post haste. (The kids will live with me most of the time, but we're doing joint custody -- I'll drop them off at school in the mornings, he'll pick them up and take them to choir and such and feed them dinner, then they'll spend the night back with me or him, depending, and then every other weekend we'll trade off who keeps them... and probably still have an occasional family outing or dinner or something.)

I'm really glad things are moving forward again. My next big quandry is whether to simply go with a service that will fill out the forms appropriately or to go with a mediator. We aren't having any problems deciding how to split things up or do custody/parenting stuff, so it's mainly a question of how to get the paperwork right so that we can do this with as little court time as humanly possible and as fairly for both parties as possible.

Never thought I'd be happy to get divorced, and part of me is sad about it. Still, halfway between light and dark, love and hate, is no way to live. If we can't do it right, I'd rather not do it at all than have some half-assed marriage that makes everyone miserable. All things considered, I'm looking forward to the future.

Comments

[iamnikchick.livejournal.com]

I have the name of a simply fabulous and definitely not expensive family lawyer who helped me fill out the paperwork so I could do it myself. I worked from a generic template that I think I found online to outline the basics of the agreement, and then we were able to use my lawyer time to go over it in detail and add or amend any language. Smooth as silk once we got all the signatures in place, and that was with an ex who was being far less cooperative about the arrangements.

Congratulations on moving ahead.

[anaka.livejournal.com]

Cool. I would be very interested in that name. Oh, and I have a check that belongs to you. Would you prefer that I mail it or run it by?