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Okay, so looked at an apartment today for David. Closer to their school, he can afford a two bedroom, no great list of amenities, but the playground is nice and it's as big as my place, nearly. And the price is right. So on the 15th he puts down the deposit and on the 1st, he moves in with whatever furniture he can scrounge up, and we're finally actually separated. Step one will be complete.
For step two, I started calling lawyers this week and checking on fees and procedures and whatnot. The one I'm the most comfortable so far is willing to do a flat fee, given our situations, and is very open to doing what she calls a collaberative divorce. We'd basically just have to go in on the last day and appear in court to see the thing through, and she'd take care of everything else. The price is reasonable, all told, though we'll have to save up for it. I am more comfortable with having a lawyer deal with the paperwork and the filing and whatnot than doing it myself... there's just too many things that could go wrong for me to feel comfortable with self-representation, and I frankly have too much going on in my life to feel that I could adequately self-educate on the niceties of family law in Washington to pull it off.
With step 2.5 tabled until October (possibly finding a new place to live for me), step three has entered, stage left. Stage three is, naturally....
*drumroll*
The divorce party!
I know it sounds dumb, but there's no point in not going out with a bang. We never really got to have a housewarming party, and we want to do away with the awkwardness of people wondering how we're feeling and coping with it and stuff, and thinking that they have to be friends with one or the other of us, and all that crap. We'd also like a good opportunity to get together with friends in the area, and any excuse for a party is a good one, right? Right? :)
Current plans being considered are: geeky/divorce related movies, such as films like Mr. and Mrs. Smith (it'll be on DVD by then), Something to Talk About, War of the Roses (possibly) and other similarly themed films in the background. Cookout/catering by Qdoba or somewhere similar/going somewhere fun for dinner, so long as it's a place the kids would be welcome. Board games, minis games and console games would naturally be made available, depending on location. In short, fun -- assuming nobody gets too hung up worrying about that divorce thing. Odds are it will be toward the end of the year, as after we get moved we'll have to save up the requisite funds to actually pay for the legal fees. Alternatively, if some of the money I'm owed comes through, that will cover the costs easily AND move up the party date. I don't know. Seems like it could be fun to me. I'd rather do that and, in a way, celebrate the good years we had than to simply have it end without anyone ever noticing.
Anyway, such are the plans, just in case you were wondering.
For step two, I started calling lawyers this week and checking on fees and procedures and whatnot. The one I'm the most comfortable so far is willing to do a flat fee, given our situations, and is very open to doing what she calls a collaberative divorce. We'd basically just have to go in on the last day and appear in court to see the thing through, and she'd take care of everything else. The price is reasonable, all told, though we'll have to save up for it. I am more comfortable with having a lawyer deal with the paperwork and the filing and whatnot than doing it myself... there's just too many things that could go wrong for me to feel comfortable with self-representation, and I frankly have too much going on in my life to feel that I could adequately self-educate on the niceties of family law in Washington to pull it off.
With step 2.5 tabled until October (possibly finding a new place to live for me), step three has entered, stage left. Stage three is, naturally....
*drumroll*
The divorce party!
I know it sounds dumb, but there's no point in not going out with a bang. We never really got to have a housewarming party, and we want to do away with the awkwardness of people wondering how we're feeling and coping with it and stuff, and thinking that they have to be friends with one or the other of us, and all that crap. We'd also like a good opportunity to get together with friends in the area, and any excuse for a party is a good one, right? Right? :)
Current plans being considered are: geeky/divorce related movies, such as films like Mr. and Mrs. Smith (it'll be on DVD by then), Something to Talk About, War of the Roses (possibly) and other similarly themed films in the background. Cookout/catering by Qdoba or somewhere similar/going somewhere fun for dinner, so long as it's a place the kids would be welcome. Board games, minis games and console games would naturally be made available, depending on location. In short, fun -- assuming nobody gets too hung up worrying about that divorce thing. Odds are it will be toward the end of the year, as after we get moved we'll have to save up the requisite funds to actually pay for the legal fees. Alternatively, if some of the money I'm owed comes through, that will cover the costs easily AND move up the party date. I don't know. Seems like it could be fun to me. I'd rather do that and, in a way, celebrate the good years we had than to simply have it end without anyone ever noticing.
Anyway, such are the plans, just in case you were wondering.
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Date: 2005-06-11 07:12 pm (UTC)From: