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2005 had a series of resolutions that I determined I was going to make happen. I don't think I took them as New Years resolutions, but I was resolved to make them happen. Let's look at the list, for posterity.
Start exercising regularly: check. Took me 9 months of effort to finally get it together, but I did it. Well, until I got let go, that is. However, I hope to resolve that in the next few weeks. I'm not letting this go. I'm in better shape and feeling better physically than I ever have in my life.
Get a divorce: check. While the court date isn't until early 2006, I did everything I could to make sure it happened. My part is largely complete. Lawyers are paid, paperwork is filed, waiting period is over. The rest will come in due time.
Get living on my own: check. David's in his place, I'm in mine. The kids go back and forth between them. This is good.
I think those were the big ones. I'm pretty happy with that list.
Things I'm pondering for 2006:
Keep exercising and lose more weight. I can tell I've got a cute body in here somewhere, but there's still too thick a layer on top. I want it reduced, as I don't think "gone" is really going to happen. It doesn't have to, though. I just want the hourglass back. I think it can happen.
Get employed. This was sort of an unexpected resolution, but I think it's a fine one. :)
Go out and be social. This is actually a huge hurdle for me... the idea of going out to a club or something by myself is terrifying. I have literally never done it... hell, I've only rarely gone with friends, as I've never had friends who'd want to go. Most of my friends game for a good time. That's great and all, but it doesn't exactly teach dating skills. I can drink socially but hate to be drunk, at least if I'm not in the company of someone I trust -- and going out by myself, I will never be in the company of someone I trust to look out for me if I'm not 100%. I want to take dance lessons, or stained glass, or get into aikido again/for the first time, or just... something.
Finish one of my novels. I want to get it down on paper. I want to get it refined. I'd even like to start shopping it around. I just. have. to. get. it. done.
Travel. I want to travel this year. I need to get my passport and save my pennies and actually try to make one major trip. I've got a standing invitation waiting for me in Guam if I can scratch together the airfare, and I'd really, really like to go. Not to mention friends in New Mexico, Houston, Victoria, Madison.... all of whom I want to see. I also have to go see my family this year. I only made one trip home last year, and that was not enough. I spent my trip money on getting divorced, and I don't feel bad about that... but now that's done.
Sell my old house. The house in ABQ has got to go. I don't much care who buys it, but someone has to. $35K cash will clear the mortgage and give me spending money, and it's worth at least that. For a brief time I had hopes that when my grandfathers passed away, I might get enough to clear that, but it's become apparent this is not going to happen. So think happy house selling thoughts for me.
Whew. That's quite a list. If I get all that done, I'll have done really well this year. :) I guess that'll do it, then.
Start exercising regularly: check. Took me 9 months of effort to finally get it together, but I did it. Well, until I got let go, that is. However, I hope to resolve that in the next few weeks. I'm not letting this go. I'm in better shape and feeling better physically than I ever have in my life.
Get a divorce: check. While the court date isn't until early 2006, I did everything I could to make sure it happened. My part is largely complete. Lawyers are paid, paperwork is filed, waiting period is over. The rest will come in due time.
Get living on my own: check. David's in his place, I'm in mine. The kids go back and forth between them. This is good.
I think those were the big ones. I'm pretty happy with that list.
Things I'm pondering for 2006:
Keep exercising and lose more weight. I can tell I've got a cute body in here somewhere, but there's still too thick a layer on top. I want it reduced, as I don't think "gone" is really going to happen. It doesn't have to, though. I just want the hourglass back. I think it can happen.
Get employed. This was sort of an unexpected resolution, but I think it's a fine one. :)
Go out and be social. This is actually a huge hurdle for me... the idea of going out to a club or something by myself is terrifying. I have literally never done it... hell, I've only rarely gone with friends, as I've never had friends who'd want to go. Most of my friends game for a good time. That's great and all, but it doesn't exactly teach dating skills. I can drink socially but hate to be drunk, at least if I'm not in the company of someone I trust -- and going out by myself, I will never be in the company of someone I trust to look out for me if I'm not 100%. I want to take dance lessons, or stained glass, or get into aikido again/for the first time, or just... something.
Finish one of my novels. I want to get it down on paper. I want to get it refined. I'd even like to start shopping it around. I just. have. to. get. it. done.
Travel. I want to travel this year. I need to get my passport and save my pennies and actually try to make one major trip. I've got a standing invitation waiting for me in Guam if I can scratch together the airfare, and I'd really, really like to go. Not to mention friends in New Mexico, Houston, Victoria, Madison.... all of whom I want to see. I also have to go see my family this year. I only made one trip home last year, and that was not enough. I spent my trip money on getting divorced, and I don't feel bad about that... but now that's done.
Sell my old house. The house in ABQ has got to go. I don't much care who buys it, but someone has to. $35K cash will clear the mortgage and give me spending money, and it's worth at least that. For a brief time I had hopes that when my grandfathers passed away, I might get enough to clear that, but it's become apparent this is not going to happen. So think happy house selling thoughts for me.
Whew. That's quite a list. If I get all that done, I'll have done really well this year. :) I guess that'll do it, then.
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Date: 2006-01-01 10:53 pm (UTC)From:And if you're coming to the Antipodes, always remember that Australia's not that much further than Guam :)
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Date: 2006-01-01 11:25 pm (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2006-01-01 11:08 pm (UTC)From:Now, the better thing would be to talke a class, or join a book club, a writing group (probably a bad idea since you are a pro, and would probably get people trying to take advantage of you), or even a church. That is how you meet people and make relationships. Heck, I hear the SCA is actually fun in Seattle and now that kids can fight, it is getting more kid friendly.
You can do all of this!
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Date: 2006-01-01 11:23 pm (UTC)From:You would think in a place the size of Seattle that there would be no social circle so small as to make this uncomfortable, but SCA fencing circles aren't exactly huge, especially not when you're in the same Barony.
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Date: 2006-01-01 11:25 pm (UTC)From:no subject
Date: 2006-01-01 11:56 pm (UTC)From:I haven't been in the SCA in years. I probably should re-enter that sphere. (He said, mumbling to himself and walking away...)
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Date: 2006-01-02 03:08 pm (UTC)From: (Anonymous)Add a futon and a pull-out couch in Baltimore if you ever have need of a place to stay in the Mid-Atlantic.
The new three-year assessment on the house came in the mail on Saturday. Our house's value went up a whopping 50% since three years ago (it only went up 3% in the previous three-year period), and this in an under-valued blue collar neighbourhoor. My in-laws' house went up 55%.
You may just be surprised at how much more than $35,000 you can pull in if you sell.
Spike