December 11th.

[eurydicebound]

That's D-Day, the day on which my divorce becomes final, assuming we get all the ducks in a row during the intervening mandatory wait period. The papers are filed and the legal wheels set in motion. There's a small amount of irony here, as the 7th of December is our 15th wedding anniversary. At least I'll have a nice, easy to remember number to refer back to when people ask. :)

I find that I still feel this is a worthy cause for celebration, and that I'd like to have some sort of occasion to mark the event, though I don't know if I'm sticking to my previous format idea. For one, I don't know that David is all that attached to the idea, or feels the same desire to go party. For two, it seems that the number of friends we have that we both actually talk to pretty much get how things are between us and that they aren't required to choose sides. For three, I don't think my kids are of the same celebratory mind as I am, and I don't want to make them sad. I'd also sort of like to have a more adult celebration, now I think of it. At least somewhere that might sell alcohol for people to partake of, should they wish.

So... yeah. I have a date, roughly, I just need to figure out what the form of said get-together will be. Suggestions?

Comments

[oakthorne.livejournal.com]

May I offer a piece of advice?

Do something to recognize - in a symbolic fashion - that this has occurred once it does. Symbols and ritual speak to our deep mind, which is often the part of ourselves that we find strange emotions upwelling from. I know two of my covenmates have gotten divorced or otherwise seperated, and they said that doing so can really help mitigate those strange senses of "the world not being right."

Because the joining was symbolized ritually in some fashion (an exchange of rings, a full wedding, what have you), take a few moments to use that same "language" to let your deep mind know what is going on. At worst, you engage in some meaningless ritual. At best, it can help with that transition.

Just a piece of advice; use, fold, mutilate and spindle as you see fit. *hugs*

Regards,
Joseph

[anaka.livejournal.com]

No, I very much agree with the use, even need for ritual in our lives. I think overall we've eliminated rather too much of it in modern Western society, to our detriment as a whole. We're built to repond to it; I think we do ourselves a disservice by not using it more often. Not necessarily in an expensive way, mind you, but it doesn't take a fortune to make a ritual.